To provide a little taste of what’s inside the pages of It’s (Not That) Complicated, we thought we’d share the table of contents with you all. We’ll be posting more excerpts and updates as we near our November 1st release date, so check back with us soon!
We’re excited to announce that our new book, It’s (Not That) Complicated: How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way, will be released on November 1st! Many thanks to all of you who wrote us with your ideas and questions; we wanted this book to be as timely and practical as possible, and we couldn’t have written it without your help.
Stay tuned – we’ll be posting updates, sneak peaks, and bonus features over the next couple of weeks!
It’s been over five years since we released So Much More, and since then, we’ve seen much, heard much, done much, and learned much. And we’ve decided it’s time to write another book. The topic, this time, is relationships with boys. What we need now is for you, dear readers, to give us your feedback! What information would you most like to see in a book on this topic? What questions would you most like answered?
What do you think are the biggest issues girls deal with regarding young men?
Their biggest questions about proper guy-girl interaction?
Their biggest fears regarding relationships, marriage, and singleness?
Things they’ve always wanted to know about the young man’s perspective?
The most complicated relationship situations they face?
What lessons have you learned that you would most like other girls to hear about?
Please send your feedback on any or all of these questions to us at damselsATvisionarydaughtersDOTcom.
We’re eager to hear from you soon! This is an exciting project, and your help with it will be invaluable.
Over the past year and a half we have had the privilege of watching two of our brothers humbly and prayerfully consider the decision to marry their future brides. Their examples have taught us a lot about discerning the Lord’s will and studying Scripture for answers to the many questions that surface along the way. We’re excited to announce that our father, Geoffrey Botkin, and our dear mother Victoria will be joining David & Nadia and Ben & Audri for a five-week webinar discussing marriage–and the challenges and joys of getting there. Find out more at westernconservatory.com!
We’re proud to introduce an excellent new CD message by our brothers Isaac, David, and recently-engaged Benjamin.
What Our Father Taught Us About Girls
How to Relate to Sisters in Christ: A Practical Guide — by Isaac, David, and Benjamin Botkin
You can tell a lot about a nation by the boys are trained to treat girls. Will boys grow up with the ability to respect, cherish, and lead women into the future, or will young men continue to exploit and degrade women? Is it possible for American boys to rediscover the ways men were created to honor women the ways God intends for women to be honored?
This message reveals the attitudes three young men learned to cultivate as they listened to their father’s instruction, studied Scripture on their own, and then interacted with the fair sex with confidence, gallantry, and manliness. Get practical advice on how to obey the command to treat young women “as sisters, with all purity”: how to view girls; how to interact with girls; how to protect girls; how to handle flirtatious girls; and how to encourage and edify your sisters in Christ. Gain a vision for how to have meaningful and edifying friendships with those who are “heirs together of the grace of life.”
Why is it hard for girls to find the balance between flirting and shunning? How can girls keep their hearts pure? What responsibilities do they have toward young men? Is it possible to be “just friends”? Hear practical advice from Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin on navigating the tricky waters of relationships with boys, and how these relationships, properly conducted, can be edifying and strengthening.
[I] highly recommend it for parents striving to help their daughters navigate what can be (but certainly don’t always have to be) the tricky waters of boy-girl friendships and young women who are seeking biblical encouragement and advice on the subject. . . . a very important disclaimer: if you’re not ready to be convicted, to alter your perception of the young men in our life, and, by extension, to alter your behavior . . . don’t purchase it. — Jasmine Baucham
We were very honored to be guests on the Generations With Vision radio show again, this time on the subject of our new audio message, “What our Father Taught us About Boys.”
From the Generations website:
What our Daughters Need to Know About Young Men
Interview: Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin
In a Eros-filled society, people hardly know how to relate to each other, and the problem is particularly difficult for our unmarried young men and women. The Botkin sisters join us again on this edition of Generations to talk about “The things our father taught us about young men.” Too many young men and women avoid each other or create odd romantic ideas about the opposite gender. This helpful interview will strengthen the guy-girl (read brother-sister) relationships in your church community. We would recommend this as an excellent teaching tool for families and churches, where young men and women, boys and girls interact.
You can listen to the show HERE.
How to Relate to Brothers in Christ: A Practical Guide
Our father started teaching us about boys when we were still in our highchairs. Understanding that girls are practically born with an awareness of boys, romance and marriage, our parents figured they couldn’t start too early, teaching us the right perspectives before we eagerly absorbed all of the wrong ones. This message is a collection of the most helpful things our father ever taught us about romance, friendships, flirting, shyness, cyber-relationships, emotional purity, romance novels, and how boys’ minds really work.
Why is it hard for girls to find the balance between flirting and shunning? How can girls keep their hearts pure? What responsibilities do they have toward young men? Is it possible to be “just friends”? Hear practical advice on navigating the tricky waters of relationships with boys, and how these relationships, properly conducted, can be edifying and strengthening.